When I start to feel off-balance, it is often because I have begun to skip the activities on my Self-Discipline tactics I am about to list. While I know it is counter-productive, the pattern is so easy to get trapped into. It starts with (a) getting overwhelmed then (b) crawling up on the couch and vegging and then (c) sleep and repeat.
Once I do this for more than one day, I find myself getting stuck and it is very hard to get unstuck – especially with the chronic pain I suffer from. For you, it may be pain as well that stops you or it might be just negative thoughts – which can be just as exhausting.
I am hoping this list will serve as a good reminder of your projected daily goals. You can alter it slightly to fit what works for you. The point is to at least have a list that you can refer to when you start to feel yourself feel off balance. A good tip is to read through them in the morning (out loud) so that the universe can hear your intention. As I have stated before, what you put into the universe usually cycles back around to you.
Wake up on Time (or even earlier). Set an alarm and get up when your alarm goes off. Just by doing that simple task, you are inserting your drive to succeed. It takes self-discipline to get up on time or even early.
Daily Exercise. It does not have to be crazy but MOVE. When we move, we release endorphins which helps with depression and anxiety. My personal goal (beyond daily exercise) is to exercise for thirty min. five times a week.
Eat Healthy. When we eat crap food, we often feel crappy inside. When I am consistent with my macro counting, my energy levels increase and I generally feel happier. You can enjoy a piece of chocolate or a cookie every now and then, but try to watch your overall consumption.
Follow-Through. Self-discipline is often in the follow-through. This does not mean saying yes to everything. What it means is if you do commit to something, try to keep that commitment.
Avoid Temptation. A great way to build self-discipline is to avoid things you know you don’t want. For example, if you know your overall goal is to eat healthy, don’t buy doughnuts.
Show Respect Toward Others. Being kind can have a ripple effect. Control your inner anger/frustration and choose to be respectful toward others, even if they are not that way toward you. Take the higher road.
Personal Growth Time. Give yourself at least fifteen minutes a day to do personal growth, whether that is reading, listening to a podcast, or writing in a journal.
Meet Deadlines, AKA: Don’t Procrastinate. You have to do something? Just do it. Don’t put it off because you don’t feel like it.
It’s crazy to think I am thirty years old – not because I think it is an old age, but rather because time is going so insanely fast. One moment we are all graduating high school and the next, everyone is settling down in their careers and building a family of their own.
To celebrate this monumental age, I wanted to share thirty lessons I have learned along the way. Some I wish I had known (or come to realize) sooner!
Hint: You might recognize some of these lessons as topics of previous blog posts.
Mindset is everything. A negative mindset will keep you from reaching your full potential in life. A positive mindset will make you unstoppable! Force yourself to challenge your thoughts, and say positive things to yourself like you would to a friend.
Friends come, and friends go. Life is always evolving. Some people may be here for a season or some for a lifetime. Either way, chances are there is a lesson attached.
Change is always possible. Never settle. You are never stuck if you don’t want to be.
Toxic is toxic. Set boundaries for yourself and keep them.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Each of us have different experiences in life that make up who we are. Your path is unique to you.
Be transparent. Be real. Share your story with others, even if it is scary. You never know who you may inspire.
Fall seven times, get up eight. Keep going.
Self-love and compassion are essential.
Be around like-minded people and people who share the same vision as you.
Don’t rush time. Time goes fast. Enjoy the time you have with your loved ones.
Be mindful who you take advice from.
Learn to take constructive criticism so that you are able to grow.
Be open-minded. Try to see situations from all angles.
Feel your emotions, don’t run from them. When you try to numb pain, it just manifests into something negative. Allow yourself to feel and heal from what is hurting you.
Love the people that support you.
Time helps to heal. It doesn’t erase memories; it just makes them easier to grasp.
Complaining about everything will not help solve your problems.
Never work for money, work for your passion.
Take educated risks. Do your research, but do not be afraid to change things up.
Work out to make your body stronger, not because you feel like you have to look a certain way.
Do some type of personal growth daily – whether it is reading, journaling, yoga, etc.
Gossiping is useless and hurtful. Challenge yourself not to engage in it.
Listen more, talk less.
Speak up for yourself and for those you love.
Travel – see how differently the world is beyond your world.
Give back to the community, whether it is charity work or fundraisers. Think beyond just you.
Worry less about what others think and worry more about what God has placed on your heart.
Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it.
Don’t worry so much about the past. It is done and over with. You can’t go back – you can only make this moment and beyond count.
You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. Happiness comes from within.
“The idea is to write your affirmation on a piece of paper and place it underneath your pillow before you fall asleep.”
Okay, so I cannot claim”The Pillow Method” as my idea – I want to put that out there first and foremost. However, I think the whole concept is an amazing idea and I wanted to share!
As stated in the quote above, “the idea is to write your affirmation on a piece of paper and place it underneath your pillow before you fall asleep.” The reason for this? The moment you fall asleep and the moment you wake up are two crucial times in the day that impact our thinking. It is important to set the right intention to avoid unwanted and negative thought patterns, and to start retraining your brain to think positively.
Why specifically is this effective?
You are allowing your last thoughts of the day to be positive. This can have a positive effect on your dream cycle and also allow you to carry that attitude to the next day. I mean think about it this way – how often do nightmares come from thoughts or events occurring prior to sleeping?
Setting your intention before bed also helps you “rewire subconscious thought patterns” as you sleep. All those underlying thoughts that may be negative, this will help you retrain your brain overtime as you set a new intention for your life.
As you are falling asleep, it is almost like you are “letting go” of any resistance to your desire/affirmation. Let those negative thoughts just float away as you drift asleep and just allow yourself to focus on your goal. Like I stated in a previous blog, there is such thing as the law of attraction. Your positive thoughts can have a huge impact on your outlook and what you achieve.
**The Pillow Method was an idea posted on moderndaymanifestations.com. **
It takes 21 days to create a habit, and 90 days to create a lifestyle.
You know you are unhappy. Now what?
First off, you are not alone. I have been there. There is nothing wrong with feeling hopeless. It is a human emotion that is much more common than others let on. The key is not to stay there. It can be crippling to continue to think nothing will change and that you are “stuck”. The longer you are there, the longer it will take you to get out of it.
My suggestion? Start with little changes and stick with them no matter how impossible it might feel some days. You may not think these habits are not making a difference but keep this fact in your head – it takes 21 days to create a habit, and 90 days to create a lifestyle. It takes time. You have to retrain your brain to see the positive.
I have listed 20 healthy habits below that seem subtle and perhaps pointless, but can make a huge difference over time. I challenge you to begin mastering a few of these habits and see how your life transforms.
Practice gratitude. Perhaps start a gratitude journal and add to it before you go to bed?
Value your alone time. Use this time to recharge. Meditate.
Make time for your loved ones. Let them be your support in times of need.
Learn from your failures and do not be afraid of failing.
Write out your goals, post it somewhere visible to you, and make little steps toward them daily.
Read self-help books or daily devotions.
Drink more water. Ideally you should be drinking half your body weight.
Be active for at least 30 minutes a day.
Communicate. You need something? Ask!
Declutter the space around you. Believe it or not, an organized room can actually do a lot for one’s psyche because it is something you can control in a healthy way.
Get enough sleep (7-9 hours ideally). You will be amazed how much better you feel when your body is rested. Remember, this is your body’s healing time.
Journal – get those feelings out.
Eat real food. When you get the right food in your body, you will be amazed how much better you feel.
Make it a routine to take a break from social media. The “perfect” life portrayed on social media is so far from the truth. It can be damaging to think you have to achieve such an unrealistic goal.
Learn to forgive.
Practice daily affirmations.
Belly laugh often! It is shown to enhance a person’s mood.
Be in direct sunlight as often as possible. Lack of Vitamin D alone can make you depressed. Enjoy time outdoors when the weather permits.